Nothing Like a Mentor...

I think everyone needs someone that they can look up to and go to for coaching, whether it be professional or personal. My someone was the infamous hairdresser, John Sahag, until June of 2005 when he passed away from brain cancer.

My hottie husband's mentor is Dwight Miller. Dwight was John's best friend, and his mentor as well.
Dwight lives here in Santa Fe and I just spent the last two days with him.
I got a rock star haircut...which makes me feel pretty again, and not quite so bad about how it has fallen out and changed. I also got the opportunity to hang out with him and hear all the stories about back in the day. He has been hairdressing for 44 years and "loves it more now than ever".
He was a delightful and charming host. He showed me a lot of Santa Fe, and it felt wonderful to be connected to the world again.

More than that though, I have fallen in love with my profession all over again. I have been cutting hair here at my Zen-get away for some of the residents. It is amazing how much everyone loves hairdressers. They have had so many questions, and pure delight in the results.
It is really wonderful to feel like you are contributing to another human being. I think it is the stuff that the juice of life is made of.

So tomorrow marks the end of week two, (Oh fu#&ing YEAH!!! ) and here is my list of what I have learned thus far...

1. There are things we MUST do in this life in order to maintain one's integrity...i.e. swallow handful of vitamins, exercise, eat well rather than eat what one desires... etc. etc. I figure I might as well enjoy these activities rather than suffer( self imposed) thru them.
2. I have really taken way more for granted in my life than I had originally thought. For example, since being here I have not had a car. I have had to walk everywhere... It was on one of these LONG A#% walks that the thought occurred to me that I really take for granted having a car. In addition, I realized that I have taken the quality of my life for granted for a very long time. Little things, like being able to leave your shampoo in the bathroom, not having to wirte your name on everything that you put in the refrigerator, sleeping in, or sleeping in a room where 6 other people do not walk through ALL NIGHT LONG!!!
3. My husband is truly one in a million and I am the luckiest girl on the planet that he chose me to be his wife. I miss his kisses and company so much and I will never choose T. V. over time with him again.
4. When some one offends, upsets, is rude or anything along those lines towards me it is an act of generosity to let it go. Besides it is not personal and it never is....
5. Gossip destroys the human spirit....It is so easy to fall into it even at a Zen center. I am far better served to walk away with a closed mouth.
6. I am closing my mouth more often.
7. I now like to go for walks. When HH ( hottie husband) used to ask me to go for a walk I would say "No thanks, only poor people go for walks...unless it is on the French Riviera" . I had a bad attitude and felt sorry for myself cause I wasn't on the Riviera. (I promise honey to walk with you every night or whenever you ask. And I will be happy about it and consider myself a lucky girl to do so.)
8. Eating healthy can taste great. I just can't be lazy about food preperation any more.
9. When I am out in the real world I realize how much I miss all my stuff...say what you will I am happier having all my girly glittery things.
10. I am getting through this experience a moment at a time, which is the best training for mindful living. However, if I had to be here on a permanent basis I would throw myself in front of a fast moving car.
11. Even though my kids can drive me nuts at times with some of the stupid, thoughtless things that they say or do....I love them with all my heart. I am so lucky to have them in my life on a daily basis. Plus, I really love who each one of them has choosen to be in realtionship with. People are amazed at our family story...and they really think we are good looking as a family. (and here I thought it was just me that was the good looking one...ha ha ha ha ha)
12. My sister is really one of my best friends....thank God for her.
13. My husband is my other best friend. His and my sister's support of me and my life is truly endless.
14. I still love the sits.
15. I still can't wait to go home.

See you all soon...and I will be workin' my rock star haircut, 'n wearing an obnoxious amount of sparkles and glitter.

Rock on,
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